💬 A lot of that, I think that's towards being satisfied in the relationship. A lack of communication there, because usually when a woman cheats she's been out of the relationship for a long time. So they should have broken up. But women do it for the good back. Like they were cheating on one, they reconciled, they got back together, figured it out. But it's still in the back of her mind. So for the one time she just had to do it. We don't cheat back here. We don't condone cheating. But you know, that's what I hear.
💕 Relationships & Dating🍗 Food & CookoutsOpinion / Hot Take
❓ Why do men think they can get away with it and think they're irreplaceable?
💬 He puts a lot of pedestal behavior. They need to know how to wash a towel. Someone cleans the sink. There are dishes in there. They go away somehow and you can contribute.
❓ How many times should a woman tolerate being cheated on?
💬 Zero maximum ultimate maximum is one. I would never say I mean, that's a deal breaker for me. People that have kids and are married, you know, it's a different story. But for me, it's zero. But in reality, the majority of people probably at least one. There are definitely different life circumstances and children are a big deal and a good whole household is nice. But if it's not with a good person, then it's OK to not be with that person. But so forth is heavy for me and I'm not being with someone that's going to cheat.
👨👩👧👦 Family & Parenting🍗 Food & CookoutsOpinion / Hot Take
❓ Is your man having sex with another woman worth everything that you've built?
💬 No, you didn't. Like you pulled that zipper down. You did all this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's thought out. It's planned. It's over.
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[0.9s]SPEAKER_01:How many books do you read a year? I read a lot. I read a lot, so probably like 30. That's very good. Yeah, probably around the same. I'm a teacher, so I have no choice but to read before I give it to the kids. I'm in my free time era, so we are on Netflix. I had my book reading era. What's the greatest benefit of reading? Vocabulary expansion.
[31.7s]SPEAKER_00:I'm about to get to the end of this list. We're in the last stretch.
[42.6s]SPEAKER_01:Top reason a man cheats. Insecurity. Reason a man cheats? I just feel like a lot of men, well I'll say this, a lot of boys, not men, a lot of boys they think with the lower half instead of the top half. Exactly. So in the moment they're very, but then long term they're like, oh I shouldn't have did that. Because they think their bottoms hit that top. Societal pressures. And even like, unless it's after they play boys, they still don't say that they did that. They try to cover it up. Does that make sense? A lot of group think as well. Oh yeah.
[90.1s]SPEAKER_00:Speaking of covering up cheating, why do women cheat? Top reason.
[97.3s]SPEAKER_01:A lot of that, I think that's towards being satisfied in the relationship. A lack of communication there, because usually when a woman cheats she's been out of the relationship for a long time. So they should have broken up. But women do it for the good back. Like they were cheating on one, they reconciled, they got back together, figured it out. But it's still in the back of her mind. So for the one time she just had to do it. We don't cheat back here. We don't condone cheating. But you know, that's what I hear.
[132.2s]SPEAKER_00:I appreciate that. I actually agree with you in the middle of what you said a lot. Because I'm a firm believer that if a woman cheats on you, it's done. There's no going back.
[145.3s]SPEAKER_01:She's been out of the relationship. Something's been taking her off for a long time. That should have been communicated and ended in the relationship. But that's usually what goes on.
[158.5s]SPEAKER_00:So if you were a boy, you see that? You see that? What would be the first thing you would do? In what way? Like if the relationship is going sour? I think it would be a major thing, it would be a life thing. You're like, yo, if I was a boy, the first thing I would do is?
[180.4s]SPEAKER_01:Oh, I don't know. With my headspace now, as a boy, I think I would just be the same. I don't know, I would just be a douche. I don't really know how to answer. Take your face off. Look in the mirror.
[203.5s]SPEAKER_00:How am I supposed to do? Why do men think they can get away with it and think they're irreplaceable?
[216.0s]SPEAKER_01:He puts a lot of pedestal behavior. They need to know how to wash a towel. Someone cleans the sink. There are dishes in there. They go away somehow and you can contribute.
[260.4s]SPEAKER_00:I want to make sure I got this straight. One of y'all answers. Are y'all saying that moms need to stop encouraging their sons after 16?
[267.9s]SPEAKER_01:No. That is not what we said.
[271.1s]SPEAKER_00:That's what I thought. I was like, I don't think that's what they said.
[272.9s]SPEAKER_01:All right, y'all. We're trying to get quick. That's what that is not.
[275.4s]SPEAKER_00:No, no. I said I don't think that's what you meant. I was like, what? So explain that again. You're like moms are doing something.
[280.1s]SPEAKER_01:Have you ever seen, whether it was on social media or in real life, a mom that is like just all over her son in a way that is honestly kind of uncomfortable? Like, oh, this is like I saw a woman on TikTok. Oh, this is my man. Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's weird. That's the behavior that you're talking about. I'm thinking they are above everybody else because your mom kissed your butt all these years. You can't do no wrong. Your sister's slaving in the kitchen. You up there playing the game doing nothing. And you're going to bring that into the relationship and wonder why she asked me to do stuff when you were never asked to do anything your entire life.
[313.6s]SPEAKER_00:Chores don't need a gender role. So it's more so moms not requiring you to actually be great, but telling you that you're great.
[321.3s]SPEAKER_01:Some boy moms are feeding into the patriarchy. We don't need like certain house chores for certain genders. You need to be able to do this if you're going to live alone in the future or with someone else.
[336.6s]SPEAKER_00:So question, if a guy actually was, let's say, your prototype guy and his mom was his biggest fan before you, is that a problem? It's only a problem if she's encouraging him to be whack. It's like, yo, you're so great, but he's not doing anything to be great.
[355.8s]SPEAKER_01:If she's enabling him to be a bad person, then she's the problem and so is he. Well, he did it.
[373.4s]SPEAKER_00:OK, I get. So now let me clear what I think you guys are saying. I think I understand now moms who enable bad behavior and moms who celebrate men who are not actually worth celebrating. OK, so be proud of your son, but your son better be doing something that's worth being proud of. OK, we get that and highly agree with. I hate my last question. How many times should a woman tolerate being cheated on?
[407.2s]SPEAKER_01:Zero maximum ultimate maximum is one. I would never say I mean, that's a deal breaker for me. People that have kids and are married, you know, it's a different story. But for me, it's zero. But in reality, the majority of people probably at least one. There are definitely different life circumstances and children are a big deal and a good whole household is nice. But if it's not with a good person, then it's OK to not be with that person. But so forth is heavy for me and I'm not being with someone that's going to cheat.
[446.8s]SPEAKER_00:I just got one follow up question about that concept that for a lot of people go back and forth about it. Is your man having sex with another woman worth everything that you've built?
[462.1s]SPEAKER_01:It's worth it to you. Yes, that's the hard part. How did you follow the trip? I feel like if we're dating and it's like, hey, for three months, you're done. You can have them. No, I don't care how long we've been together, how much we've been through. I'm leaving. It's over at that point. I like it. It's over. Why would you even do that? It's thought out in my head. There's no accident. Once it happens and you're done, it's like you get everything that's coming to you. OK. There's no fallen trip. Oh, it happened.
[505.0s]SPEAKER_00:I fell into her cheeks.
[506.3s]SPEAKER_01:No, you didn't. Like you pulled that zipper down. You did all this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's thought out. It's planned. It's over.
[512.8s]SPEAKER_00:It's funny you say that because whenever guys ask me about cheating women, I always say the same sentence. And I'm like, hey, just remember, she helped him put it back in at least once. Just remember that she had to think about that. That's my responsibility. OK, cool, cool. And I guess my last thing that is.